How Facebook can ruin your life in seconds

by: Bradley Wint on April 26th, 2010 at 4:11 pm

With Facebook becoming a much less private social networking website, information about any member is being more accessible. With it’s ability to share information and media easily, it has also become one of the most popular viral/grapevine tools to keep up-to-date with the latest events happening across the globe. However, with all the good it can do, it can also have the potential to do bad. This weekend I had to chance to see one of these bad events take place from the very start in its rawest form.

The incident started when two boys from a high school in Trinidad and Tobago video recorded themselves engaging in oral sexual activity in the boys’ bathroom. The video somehow made its way into the hands of other individuals. The social buzz within the high school network suddenly sparked, causing a few individuals to form a group called “Na F.A.T.I.M.A. Yuh Cyah Be On That” around 8:30PM on Saturday night (25th April), basically meaning that the group creators couldn’t believe what was taking place at the high school. We were unable to see who created the group though. Just one hour later, group members Kirwin Jabonne uploaded a video and Kelly Splinks uploaded an album clearly displaying the sexual activities.

Unfortunately, the face of one of the boys was clearly displayed on multiple occasions in the video and photos. Other group members were quickly able to figure out who it was and even posted his name and what year he was in.

The group sky-rocketed to just over two-thousand members after three hours. Initially a number of group members expressed discontent and discredited the school and boys. However, some fans came out against the group for uploading the material and creating the group in the first place. Many reported the group to Facebook (hopefully it is deleted soon). On Sunday night, there were rumors that one of the boys had killed himself, but this has yet to be confirmed by any official source.

So the final outcome of this situation? With the face of one of the boys being exposed, his school life is basically in the drain right now. I can pretty much imagine how many phone calls their residence must be getting. I personally know how being in a compromising position feels. Just a few years ago when friends uploaded a video if me being totally drunk and wasted, I felt bad with just a few people viewing it. Imagine how these guys feel with thousands viewing what they thought would be a private activity.

The lesson to be learned here? Privacy starts from the source. Documenting anything you think should be kept private basically puts you at a risk, no matter how safe you may think the storage medium is. Time and time again shows instances where personal videos were some how leaked onto the Internet allowing many others to see. With these guys being only a few years into high school, they have basically lost the rest of their teenage life. Even though there may be ways to deal with the situation, they are still liable for their actions. The group creators and media uploaders should also share some of the blame in this situation. However, it all starts at the source. With Facebook being such a popular medium, anything personal can spread like an out of control wildfire.

Some tips to protect your privacy include:

  • Do not document or record anything that you wish to keep personal. No matter how insignificant or how safe you think the media may be, letting it fall into the wrong hands can bring serious repercussions (as mentioned in the case above).
  • Secure your online profiles as best as possible. Remove listings from public search engines, and limit profile access so only trusted friends can see your photos, videos or personal details.
  • Do not give out information or accept friend requests from strangers and be on the look out for fake profile.
  • Hide your tagged photos and videos from everyone. If you were at the stripper bachelor party, you may not want your bride seeing tagged photos of you receiving a lap dance while you still sleep in bed.

Privacy isn’t limited to Facebook but to anything online. The basic rule is that once information about you goes public, you lose all rights over it (unless you plan to sue, which doesn’t fix your scarred reputation though).

Have Something To Say? 540 Others Did!

  • bcbc – April 26th, 2010 – 1:32 PM

    Never mind the embarrassing video. Look at how they write.

    Are people really that mentally deficient now?

    • John AdamsJohn Adams – April 26th, 2010 – 1:45 PM

      Caribbean dialect I believe.

    • MichaelMichael – April 26th, 2010 – 2:38 PM

      Its Caribbean creole. Part of the way we speak. Only thing wrong is the comments made. So shameful to be a Trini right now

    • KhalanielleKhalanielle – April 26th, 2010 – 2:56 PM

      I beg your pardon “bc”, how dare you attempt to comment on the language of the these people. As John said they are simply using Caribbean Dialect. Their use of language on this site does not attest to their levels of intelligence and furthermore it is not a representation of their grasp of the English language. I suppose, no i am CERTAIN that although they may speak dialect occasionally, each individual of the Caribbean is very capable of speaking proper English. Do not attempt to insult the people because they are using dialect, they were simply expressing their views to their peers whilst in a state of shock. DO NOT LABEL THE CARIBBEAN BECAUSE OF THIS ONE INCIDENT!

    • lolzlolz – April 26th, 2010 – 3:46 PM

      @bc even if we shortened our words to enhance appeal to the point where it is hard to understand…i am sure many people in the island are smarter than you…the lesson today dont judge a book by its cover!

    • SpoilchildSpoilchild – April 26th, 2010 – 3:49 PM

      bc i realise your a complete asshole just cause we have a unique way of communicating with each other don’t make us mentally deficient your clearly the retarded and ignorant one for not learning about other cultures before you make stupid statements like that

    • Jemetrius MJemetrius M – April 26th, 2010 – 3:55 PM

      really an truly yuh have to forgive him because the level of education in the caribbean is higher than that of the united states. what we learn in standard 5 they learn in the equivalent to form 2 (i think its 8th or 9th grade)

    • MarvinMarvin – April 26th, 2010 – 3:58 PM

      woow! You know when i first read your comment, my instant instinct was to cuss you….but then i realized you don’t know better!!

    • NelzDNelzD – April 26th, 2010 – 3:58 PM

      Lol, mentally deficient. Isn’t that a bit harsh? Just because you don’t understand different cultures you go around calling people basically dumb? Get real. This is simply how we communicate. We can VERY well speak proper English, we just choose not to because its easier. Its a form of dialect, do you know what that means? Oh..wait, if you don’t you may be mentally deficient too huh?

    • SpoilchildSpoilchild – April 26th, 2010 – 4:14 PM

      As i think about it ‘bc’ us trini’s with our “mental deficiency” as u state makes your college degree look like a high school diploma worse yet a middle school diploma that’s to tell u how much smarter then u we are

    • TriniTrini – April 26th, 2010 – 4:18 PM

      People…bc is probably just an ignorant sheltered person who has his foot in his mouth. We all know that the majority of us are probably more academically inclined than him and all of than him. So let us try to not get too upset about it, but i do agree with you guys. BC YUH SHUD HUSH YUH MOUTH IF YUH DOH KNO WHAT YUH TALKN BOUT.

    • LOLLOL – April 26th, 2010 – 4:24 PM

      bc you just trying to get some trinis crossed or something????? You really have to be sheltered to make such an ignorant remark like that one. Food for thought… may be you are the mentally deficient one

    • ...trini…trini – April 26th, 2010 – 4:42 PM

      the only thing i can do is laugh, bet you sorry for making this comment now.
      Have to laugh at the fact that the 15year olds commenting are smarter than you.
      Have you ever heard of “dialect” ?? My guess is no. Try look it up. Ignorance is a sin!

    • CARIBBEANCARIBBEAN – April 26th, 2010 – 6:44 PM

      bc – your an asshole. Your’re an idiot for saying something that stupid!!! hahahahahahah i can’t believe this shit. I dont know where you’re from but I will give you a lesson in english, this is how we express ourselves, we may type and talk in dialect in casual settings, watever but when time comes we can speak standard english. thats called code switching! and i don’t know yes… you need to take your ass back to school if you make comments like that!

      ps- i know i shortened my words and there’s no capital letters w/e!! u gona call me mentally deficient now??? – dumbass, i go to the most prestigous school in the caribbean! we speak a caribbean dialect, it is more expressive than std. english thats why we use it!!! we are more creative than a plain ass like you!

    • PROUD TRINI!PROUD TRINI! – April 26th, 2010 – 7:38 PM

      i don’t think that it was appropriate for you to say that we are mentally deficient! quite frankly you don’t personally know us, you are just being bias and working on assumptions! yes on fb trinidadians as well as people of other nationalities dont always write in proper english, but i dont think you should judge us based on that! i mean i’m just assuming that you reside in the U.S it is a well known fact that education in trinidad is much better than in the U.S at elementary level. I attended a private school where i was able to meet alot of u.s kids and it was a known fact that WE ARE INDEED SMARTER! that was quite ignorant of u, don’t judge a book by its cover… “Nothing in the world is more dangerous than sincere ignorance and conscientious stupidity.” MARTIN LUTHER KING JR

    • mikhaimikhai – April 27th, 2010 – 11:33 PM

      idiot if you know nothing about the Caribbean language suggest you shut up

    • TamzTamz – April 28th, 2010 – 7:26 PM

      BC Hol yuh mc!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! yuh cah possible be a human talkin so much effin shit not bcuz yuh doe understan da mean “we” mentally deficient U mentally deficient 4 sayin da BS htf yuh wa we talk “cool dude” and “omg dat was like so gr8″ yuh musbe doe understan wa i say buh jus kno it not nice so go get a effin life ASS!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    • TamzTamz – April 28th, 2010 – 7:30 PM

      an mr Michael yuh talkin bout shame tuh be a effin Trini in d 1st place yuh shudnt call yuh self a Trini if yuh shame i shame dat u is a trini I LOVE MY COUNTRY no matter wa happen so yuh offffffffffffffffffffffffff

    • aaronaaron – April 28th, 2010 – 8:20 PM

      bc how are u so foolish. People of other parts of the world speak differently so who are u to say that the ppl of trinidad are dumb maybe ur the dumb one! So better STFU!

    • DeeDee – April 28th, 2010 – 8:44 PM

      This is to bc… are just a stupid person. that is how we trinis does talk!!!!! it is called dialect. cause i am very sure wherever you are from, y’all speak like you “mentally deficient” and congrats on using your big words

  • junebugjunebug – April 26th, 2010 – 2:49 PM

    the active members of that group’s wall should be ashamed, everyone makes mistakes, those boys are very young, what they did was very wrong, but im sure they didnt leak the tape themselves. they are making a mockery of a serious situation.
    @ bc, calm down its Trinidadian dialect
    FB should delete this page and distributors of child pornography should be held accountable

    • SpoilchildSpoilchild – April 26th, 2010 – 3:46 PM

      why should the members be ashamed they were stating their veiws the one who were posting the video and pics were banned from he group………the group wasn’t created for ppl to bash gay or nun if you look on the page u will realise everybody has a different point of view on the whole thing and are stating it and the ones who posted the video and pics on fb have been deleted from fb

  • Jemetrius MJemetrius M – April 26th, 2010 – 3:31 PM

    In the article you have residents where it should be residence.
    We Trinidadians have a very strong dialect and the members of the group are very capable of speaking proper English as I am right now but dialect is widely spoken across the country especially in everyday situations with peers. We are not mentally deficient, we just converse in the way to which we have become accustomed. it is not hard to decipher to foreigners because it is mostly shortened or abbreviated forms of English words. ‘Trus me wen I ready to tlk so I does do it, even de most educated ppl does tlk like dis.’

  • trinidadtrinidad – April 26th, 2010 – 3:44 PM

    ayee that is trinidad dialect….we can speak proper but we choose to write like that because its easier…..n fuck who make this article…..d two boys a faggots (bullamen)…stinkin moda cunt!!!! now google that piece of dialect…

    • nelznelz – April 26th, 2010 – 3:53 PM


    • NelzDNelzD – April 26th, 2010 – 4:01 PM

      This made me lol.

    • PROUD TRINI!PROUD TRINI! – April 26th, 2010 – 7:40 PM

      hahaha! lmao

    • bobbob – April 28th, 2010 – 9:57 AM

      boom bang bang

    • TamzTamz – April 28th, 2010 – 7:19 PM

      Lmao!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! hahaha dat good fuh him

    • TamzTamz – April 28th, 2010 – 7:20 PM

      ah mean dat good 4 *IT*

  • tnttnt – April 26th, 2010 – 3:51 PM

    eh….BC is a cunt… done talk!….I want him to make a trip to Laventille and talk that shit!…

  • trinitrini – April 26th, 2010 – 3:55 PM

    aye trinidad an tnt ah no bc relll chuppid an ting but allyuh jus makin we look worse…so kool it dong nah

  • TriniForLifeTriniForLife – April 26th, 2010 – 4:05 PM

    bc don’t get conceited and feel that where you live is any better. Don’t they have slangs there too??? aren’t some of the people less educated than others??? steupssss “Look at how they write”???? Yes we use a dialect ,which is originated from English,to express ourselves. Is that something amazing to you??? Fact of the matter is, some of these “mentally deficient” people are ten times as smart as you.

  • SpoilchildSpoilchild – April 26th, 2010 – 4:10 PM

    we way smarter than them stupid ass american and them…. wat them learning in university we learn that shit in high school that’s why they stupid as cyah come trinidad and play they bussing style on we right now i’m in america and i swear they speak so fucking slow it makes me wonder if i’m surrounded by “mentally deficient” people all the time

  • wordddworddd – April 26th, 2010 – 4:10 PM

    bc lookin lyk a fella who go fit in wid fatima

  • yeaayeaa – April 26th, 2010 – 4:13 PM

    American Dialect: Hey dude that pwned!
    Trini: dat was bessss!
    American: I am so wasted
    Trini: Gyalll yuhhh knooo ah was ahhh drinkaaaaaaaaa
    American: That girl is so hot…but i’m way out of her league…sigh
    Trini: psssttt babee yuh lookin besss

    which one lookin betta ppl?! TRINIIII!!

    • KhalanielleKhalanielle – April 26th, 2010 – 4:34 PM

      hmmm “yeaa” you made me smile. i ADORE our Trini culture and no matter what other people say or think i will NEVER be ashamed of my country! tlk nah!

    • trini chindiantrini chindian – April 26th, 2010 – 4:51 PM

      ahahaahah yuh sure rite! d trini dialect much badder!

    • PROUD TRINI!PROUD TRINI! – April 26th, 2010 – 7:41 PM

      trini dialect all the way! WHO VEX LOSS! PLAIN TLK BAD MANNERS!

    • bobbob – April 28th, 2010 – 9:59 AM

      TRINI FOR LIFE!!!!!!!!!


  • Shame To Be TriniShame To Be Trini – April 26th, 2010 – 4:41 PM

    So because BC didn’t know any better, Trinidadian people just had to get on their high horse and continue to show the world how IGNORANT and STUPID they really are…?

    Good lord people…

    • Jemetrius MJemetrius M – April 26th, 2010 – 4:52 PM

      well seein that he disrespected us we jus returned the favor, u cant expect us to sit here an take that. most of the ppl commenting are 15 or 16 and are more intelligent than him, and are very capable of speaking proper enlish

    • TRINI2dBONETRINI2dBONE – April 26th, 2010 – 8:03 PM

      Shame 2 be trini you are judging other trinidadians who commented the same way they judged BC…….Just by calling them “IGNORANT and STUPID”. So in the end you are being very hypocritical……All you had to say was that you don’t like the way be which they attacked BC…..I think everyone should take a look in the mirror…….TALK DONE!!!!!

    • TamzTamz – April 28th, 2010 – 7:34 PM

      aye u effin serious!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! u better take da trini outter yuh name allyuh shame 4 wat!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! if yuh was a fuckin american yuh wudda feel better ent stuepsssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss alyuh so fukin dumb yes an doe b callin nobody here ignorant like yuh cyah effin c wheather or not he dont kno any better he not suppose tuh be so disrespectful……………..TAlK DUN!!!!!!!!!!!

  • Shame To Be TriniShame To Be Trini – April 26th, 2010 – 5:00 PM

    “most of the ppl commenting are 15 or 16 and are more intelligent than him” – Jemetrius M

    Really? Because an intelligent person would have simply corrected his ignorance and left it as that. They would not have reinforced the idea that Trini people are “really that mentally deficient” – bc.

    Which we did by carrying on the way they did. If I didn’t know any better, I would’ve assumed that Trinidadians are ignorant and stupid.

    The fact that you all can ignore the importance of the article and the real message that it was trying to share and solely focus on BC’s ignorance only goes to show how MUCH Trini people enjoy a good bacchanal and gossip, something not associated with intelligence…

    • if yuh shame fuck youif yuh shame fuck you – April 28th, 2010 – 10:42 PM

      who cares wat the fuck dat nigga think…he’s a cunt for his ignorance and you is a cunt too!!!

  • TriniYouthTriniYouth – April 26th, 2010 – 5:05 PM

    @Shame To Be Trini . I may not be able to speak for the others but that comment bc made was insulting to me. I do agree that some of the comments made were unnecessary but what that individual said probably hit them hard too. So there’s no need to refer to your fellow trinis as ignorant and stupid neither is there a reason to ashamed. I don’t know about you but i am very proud of being a trini

  • PKayPKay – April 26th, 2010 – 5:05 PM

    It’s truly ironic how these Trinidadians are aggressively jumping down BC’s throat because he disparaged our use of Trini slang. While at the same time they have no problem with the fact that these two young boys are being shamed and ostracized within our own society. Barely anyone has commented on the content of the article or the issue at hand – these two young boys who now have to deal with the mistake of documenting their sexual activities.

    But this is typical Trinidadian behaviour. Trinis have a problem with being bashed but have no problem bashing/mocking & bullying others. The Trinidad I grew up in has really changed. Ignorance has taken hold and we have lost our ability to be compassionate.

  • Shame To Be TriniShame To Be Trini – April 26th, 2010 – 5:07 PM

    @TriniYouth – Their behaviour warrants the label…

    @Pkay – “this is typical Trinidadian behaviour. Trinis have a problem with being bashed but have no problem bashing/mocking & bullying others. The Trinidad I grew up in has really changed”

    Thank you Pkay…

  • TriniYouthTriniYouth – April 26th, 2010 – 5:15 PM

    Well i guess you are set in your mindsets, but i would like to point out that Shame To Be Trini and Pkay both criticized how we young ones responded and neither offered a suggestion as to how we should have responded.
    Note that I am not agreeing with all the comments that were made but I also don’t agree with how you both seem to disown trinis and criticize. If we are not doing the correct thing then tell us what to do. Don’t just say this is typical trini behavior

    • Shame To Be TriniShame To Be Trini – April 26th, 2010 – 5:19 PM

      ” If we are not doing the correct thing then tell us what to do.” – TriniYouth

      Like they would seriously listen? When told to delete the group and it’s content what were we told?

      *Points to the picture in the above article*

      Look at the status that was put in as a response to our ‘advice’. In the end you and I both know that the youth are not going to listen… You can lead a horse to water but you cannot make it drink.

      I honestly think we need to look at the bigger issue, and that being WHY would they document their activities knowing fully well the extent to the consequences that they may have faced.

    • TriniYouthTriniYouth – April 26th, 2010 – 5:41 PM

      Now I could agree. They fully well knew what they were doing. But I promise you they would be more careful in the future.

    • PKayPKay – April 26th, 2010 – 6:14 PM

      I am supposed to tell you that you should have responded with reason and logic.

      Trinidadians are known for enlightened discourse. We are invested in our society and not afraid to discuss and debate issues at hand. But because someone makes a snarky uninformed comment and the thread has descended into infantile mockery. Because these two boys are homosexual, Trinidadians chose to expose them, then shame them, then mock them and will undoubtedly destroy their lives.

      I am not the one who is disowning Trinis. My pride is intact. It’s others who have no problem misrepresenting us, discrediting us and destroying our country and torturing fellow countrymen.

  • AndreAndre – April 26th, 2010 – 5:15 PM

    ohhh snap!

  • o goshhhho goshhhh – April 26th, 2010 – 5:17 PM

    o goshhh now dat u tink about it…sum ah we rlly mentally deficient…if ppl cud actually vote pnm!!! DOH MAKE D MISTAKE MAY 24TH…VOTE UNC!!!

    • Shame To Be TriniShame To Be Trini – April 26th, 2010 – 5:21 PM

      @o goshhhh – “now dat u tink about it…sum ah we rlly mentally deficient…if ppl cud actually vote pnm!!! DOH MAKE D MISTAKE MAY 24TH…VOTE UNC!!!”


  • CedCed – April 26th, 2010 – 5:22 PM

    Not content to destroy two boys’ lives they flock to a comment thread to wave their ignorance like a rag in a carnival fete. Fellow Trinis please, raise the bar. I wish the boys strength and peace.

  • SyriTriniSyriTrini – April 26th, 2010 – 5:29 PM

    fatima get relll bash up

    personally, i think all the bashers should just move on and forget all this because their bashing makes them look insecure.

    and bc hush yuh mouth yuh sound like yuh ent never been trinidad

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